Wednesday, August 5, 2009

Arden Gives Advice #1

Dear Arden,

One of my best friends likes my ex-crush, and I stopped liking him because he did something really stupid to me and it really hurt me, and she knows exactly what it is. I don't have any feelings for him anymore but i just think that he is going to do the same thing to her. What should I tell her?


Dear Crushed,
This is a sticky situation, but it's good that you're looking out for your friend. Obviously she's head-over-heels for this guy, so it's definitely best to stay away from things like "he's a bad guy" or "he's not good for you", because this will only make her feel attacked and get defensive, which isn't good for either of you. In the end, you're only looking to help her, so you have to make sure she knows that. Start of with saying something to the effect of, "Listen, you're my friend, and I care about you a lot," so she'll feel reinforced and NOT attacked. Then, squeeze in the tough stuff: tell her how much it hurt when he did whatever it was he did, and how because she's a good friend of yours, you would hate to see it happen to her. That way, by sandwiching what you need to say between two complements, she won't take it as much of an attack, and she'll be more likely to listen to you. In the end, it's her decision, but let her know that before she embarks on trying to win him over, she should consider what could happen, especially after it happened to you.

♥, Arden

Tuesday, August 4, 2009

My Polyvore Portfolio

So yesterday I was browsing Polyvore when I came accross Glamourette's fantabulous idea, a Polyvore Portfolio! Now even if I don't have a computer near me, I can show off some of my favorite sets. For my portfolio, I picked my favorite set out of each group of layouts I've tried...I hope you guys like it :)

If you want to make one of your own, read Glamourette's tutorial here!

Monday, August 3, 2009

8.3.09- A failed attempt at being cool.

It's been cloudy all day today...not fun. When I woke up it was POURING rain, but things have calmed down now. I had to avoid the prying eyes of my family and neighbours (who happen to be my cousins, but that's a story for another day) in order to stage a mini photoshoot in my backyard by our swing set...haha :)
Top: Plain White T's Concert Tee (got it from that Fall Out Boy tour a few years ago...)
Blouse (worn as jacket): Target
Shorts: Candie's @ Kohl's
Belt: Forever 21
Headband: Forever 21
Cameo Necklace: Vintage
Chain Necklace: Forever 21
Silver Cuff: Forever 21
Shoes: Simply Vera Vera Wang @ Kohl's
A close up of the shoes. I love these things! Thank goodness for cheaply priced designer (or well...designed by designer) goods.

Hahahahahaha....epic faaaaaaiilllll.